How many of you guys want to marry into intercast?? I know I do,
I am so called Bahun but I find Newari girls very attractive, do you people know any nice- Beautiful and well educated Newari girl who want to get to know me better.
Are there any girls who don’t give a damn about cast, and think wiser then these discriminating losers?

gurudev ritthe lai yo kura maan paryo

hello guys and girls,do anyone intrested intercaste marrage with madheshi.why people doesnt feel to think about them.i feel to say many thing but i m waiting for reply......

she is my friend.

Little disagrees with the timetravellers. No offence. We all know all the parents have work hard to make us to stand here today. Getting married into intercaste does not change who you are, nor does it change your relationship with your family.
Question is how it will be welcomed in your family. One of my bro got married with different cast and different religions girls. They are happily ever after. It was not any love marriage but it was intercaste marriage in Nepal. After their big progress in both of their career, both sides family forgot about the intercaste. One of my cousins got married with different country girl, she is not less than any Nepalese buhari, but even better I should say. Other counties girls can adapt in Nepalese cultural and tradition then why not the Nepalese girls cannot adapt into different caste culture. All they need is our support. They can do it too. As Batas says they can.
So lakhee, there are people who did intercaste marriage. It is your life and it is your decision with whom you want to spend rest of your life.

I think intercaste marriage is a great idea and is in need for Nepal that way we will avoid relating ourselves of belonging to a certain caste or group of people.

Lakhee,
""Are there any girls who don’t give a damn about cast,and *******think wiser then these discriminating losers?**********
What do you mean by this? ***Think wiser***are you saying we are dumb.. You cannot generalise all bahun gals like that. You may have come across some immature bahun girl doesn't mean that all bahun gals cannot think wiser than Other girls..

You sound like a discriminating loser yourself.... Go for Newari, Bhotini, Raini, what ever gals you want...Nobody has got problems with that in here.. But DO NOT GENERALISE ALL BAHUN GALS LIKE THAT..Remember your SISTER, COUSIN etc is BAHUN GIRL as well..

PowerGal, Lakhee was not claiming any race (bahun) ethnic group to be racist as you suggest. He was suggesting this to the people who are racist on sajha and this thread.
Why did you assume he was talking about bahun girls? I did not get that impression.

I agree with someone who said, it will change slowly and should change slowly. social/cultural/tradition can not be changed in small amount of time. Like someone mentioned, if we think we are very open minded person, we should act like that but at the same time respect other's feeling too. we should not try to push them too hard to agree with us. when we become parents and we still think same way as we are doing now, we can ask our childrens to marry whoever they want. our parents has given us to much, we gotta respect them as well. if they agree, fine, if not, compromise. society is changing and it wil change. But i am still not sure which society is good and which is bad. One of my friend was telling me that society we had may be 50 yrs ago was better than we have now in case of stability of a family, love, respect, trust and all. Now, each and every person talks about rights, and sometimes we might be askign for too much rights. People have a lot of rightrs here in usa, and also a lot of family problems, child custody, divorce,. i guess they can not compromise and would not like to compromise because of this rights issue. they woudl rather hire a lawyer. oh, well if we consider this society is good, then our society is bad, if we consider our society is bad, then this society is good. i am confused. can we find society in middle ground where we have all rights, and also have good family values?
well then may be we human being come up with different ideas to make more complicated life style. its all about thinking.

intercast marriage is not a new issue and no more wonder in nepali society. if you like someone go ahead for the deal, nobody hinders you in the present days. By discussing on this issue we are just reviving castism which is not good; sabailai thaha bhaya.

Intercast marriage ra bahun le kukhuro khanu hunchha hundaina bhanne issue ustai hunn abako samayama.
The discussion should not be whether u want intercast marriage, but it should be if you find a perfect partner with respect to the state of you life.

OOPS!!!No offense Lakhe!!
May be I was concentrating in the thread 10% and 90% @ work....
Thanks ne23pe!!:-)

hey marriage is a marriage, whether its intercast or with in cast. before going for marriage just make sure that ur ready for commitment, that's it.

I agree. But, "intercaste" marriage as an interracial marriage could lead some to enormous opportunities that the DV Lottery did not kindly offer.
How about that?

Lakhee and Lovenepalalways, your views are good.

However, if you read carefully, I was just referring to the tension between the parents and the children. That smoothes out the process in the society.

I look at this thread and I see "me ....me..... mapai" everywhere.

{Parents gav birth to us, they fed us, took care of us all their life, they fed us without feeding themselves first, they bore all kinds of bittersweet comments and insults and protected us- without them we wouldn't be yapping here in sajha. It's easy to come to the US or sit at a computer in Nepal and rant all these things.}

{And then, once we grow up, for a freakin girl or a guy we forget all that? We forget the ONLY wish they ever had for us????.}

HOWEVER, THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS. If you were brought up in the US and never seen any Nepali people then you have every right to marry regardless of caste, culture or nationality. That is because you were never exposed to those elements and it's your parents' fault.

However, for those of you brough up in Nepali culture seen our parents' troubles please don't fight against your parents' only wish. You make a choice when you fall in love. Love is blind, but not without brains! THINK. Attraction to some other caste is merely amorous to a large extent. You don;t love the person, you don;t what he/she does....you just like the outer skin.

Just because intercaste marriage has to be made a norm doesn't mean you force yourself onto it! I used to think like that but I've realized my mistake. Besdies, marriage between same castes preserves our cultural identities. A bahun marrying a newar, how many festivals will you observe? Bel bihe, dashain, tihaar, mha puja, blah blah blah...soon, you won't be observing either caste's rituals and festivals.

Think. It's easy to be humane and NOT CARE about caste.

But it takes a much bigger sacrifice to think about not just you but also others around you care for a smooth operation of society and I am personally proud of the fact that I'll contribute to it.

It is not necessary that you care about the whole country or society etc...but it is necessary that you ease out the tension in your own lineage, your own family.

I REPEAT, YOU MAKE A CHOICE WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE. TO LOVE OR NOT TO LOVE.

To those confoosed, read my post before this, it's on the first page.

And thanks nails. I've read a lot of your posts, they make a lot of sense!

No problem PowerGal !!

Generation gap will always be there, even in our own upcoming generation. What our generation’s parents are facing we will face it ourselves in our children’s generation. Our parents are facing intercast marriage. In our children’s generation we may have to face the fact of gay marriage, what will you then do or say to your children? Will you accept a man for your buhari, and a girl for your jwai? How will you feel, the same feeling our parents has about intercast marriage.

I am not discouraging any of you people nor am I against intercast marriage, actually I am very much “For” it. I myself may marry into an intercast if I fall for a girl from another cast. Living outside I see any cast Nepali as just a Nepali. I don’t divide them in any cast or culture or what ever. And also children from an intrecast marriage are very beautiful and very wise.

I have a very open view in this matter and I am willing to get to know a girl from any cast my self. So my partner candidates area is very wide, any girl is welcome. ;)

Thank you ne23pe for clarifying my post to Powergirl.
Powergirl as ne23pe mentioned I also want to clarify to you and all the other people myself that I am not pointing my finger to any cast or culture. I am pointing my finger only to those idiots who think primitive and apparently never evolve in their thought.
My mother is bahun and I love her very much, she is analphabetic but she is wiser then those so called highly educated women or girls.
I am neither saying that I don’t want to marry into my own cast, Basally what I am trying to say in this thread with all the discussion is that I want to find my own bride and marry in love not just arranged by my parents. If I fall in love with my own cast then I will marry her.
The reason I am point at that group of girls is because I don’t have any GF right now and I am free to choose any one, and I find them attractive.
Powergirl if I get to know you better I may loose intrest in other girls and may fall in love with you as well and may wanna marry you.

My point is “You never know where the wind blow” - someone

INTER-CASTE MARRIAGE IS FLOURISHING IN U.S.

Lakhe,
See, At this moment you could get interested in any girls then.. ..Lol..I wasn't really concentrating on the thread before.... thought you were pointing to ....

I kind ofunderstand what you are trying to say here.. I don't think parents will force their children to do arrange marriage these days..... They will give them option to choose ...However, I don't think they will agree for intercast straightaway either.. ...But it all depends on where your parents live.. If your parents live back in Nepal ..Where you have got your relatives and neighbours whom you know and that sort of things then it will be hard for them to accept that...They have to deal with people talking behind the back ....Well its your life anyway.. If you have got guts to go against your parents then you gotta have the courage to convince/ fight with them..

I totally agree with TimeTraveller.. :-)

Well you can say that my parents live in Nepal. They cannot force me to marry, but as you say they give choices. I can fight / convince my parents if I marry beside their choices.
How about you, are you marring a guy of your choice or your parents choice? If you already are married, then the same question with past tens. (Did)

Lakhee, U haven't met a gal yet and planning about a marriage??

Dun u think??ur thread sud have been like" i want to date a Newari girl" first and after dating u sud have posted this intercaste thread...lol